“ My teenage self could only find truth smuggled away in the dark recesses of obscure online communities; usually couched in layers of ironic (and sincere) bigotry. And while I did not enjoy the bigotry (at the time), I found value in engaging with the transgressive material I came across because I felt that it expressed truths otherwise unavailable to me.”
Chateau Heartiste, by any chance?
Excellent essay. I have daughters who are young adults. I tried to be helpful, and I hope that it was of some use, but they are definitely influenced by the culture around them.
The model of a family consisting of a man and a woman committed to each other, having children together, and being responsible for those children and each other, provides a framework for all of these urges and needs and biological pressures. It evolved over thousands of years. Throwing it out in two generations and hoping something better would spontaneously emerge was unwise, to say the least.
I sometimes speculate that we will have a century running from about 1960, the appearance of the oral contraceptive pill, just some major cultural change in 2060, and put all this madness behind us. Future historians will describe this century as a very puzzling and destructive time.
I will be long gone by then! But the world goes on.
I very much appreciated this piece. I am eager to hear more from you. At 50 my focus is mostly on what young men need now. But I can not truly understand them without knowing what women and girls are going through in this pathological Era. So thank you. And, subscribed.
Very good article. As a man, I obviously haven't experienced the bulk of this personally, but it rings true with what I've seen. I've been saying for a while, for example, that most FTM's seem to have a desperate desire to be desexualized, while most MTF's seem to have a desperate desire to be sexualized (and more deeply, to be valued and desired). Obviously both are signs that something in how society treats both men and women since "sexual liberation" has gone horribly wrong.
One thing that could bear mentioning is that while Belle Delphine and those like her get flaunted in the media, most who go that path DON'T get rich. The most common OF payment per month is $0. The second most common is a few hundred. Survivorship bias creates delusions.
Another thing that this article doesn't address is aging. This may be because you're fairly young yourself, in which case congrats for figuring so much out so quickly, but the heavy attention women get from men takes place within a limited window. That window can be a different size depending on the woman and how well she takes care of herself, but very few manage to keep it open through their 40's. That's when women get to experience something more similar to men's existence, where they're judged by what they do or have done rather than what they are. So most of the women who have been riding this OF/e-girl/whatever-you-want-to-call-it wave haven't really experienced the brunt of the consequences of their life choices yet. When they do, that's when things are REALLY going to get interesting, as there's definitely going to be a major social shift, one way or another.
Because when men invented the machines which liberated themselves from the plough, the spade and the horse and cart, women made sure men redirected their efforts towards making life safer and more comfortable for women (he for she).
But when men invented some more machines which liberated women from spinning, knitting, washing clothes and beating carpets, those men did NOT demand women redirect THEIR efforts towards making life fairer and more pleasant for men (she for he).... or for children (she for them).
Instead men said "You're free to do whatever you want now - we've got everything covered".
As a consequence, in the post industrial age - and freshly liberated from crucial tasks around the home -women lost their sense of purpose, social responsibility and identity as women, and embarked on the hedonistic pursuits of 'liberation' and 'personal empowerment' (vanity, self service and narcissism) - abandoning the needs of their own children, and even usurping the roles of their husbands and sons along the way.... until society collapsed under the weight of all this 'female empowerment', which all began to feel increasingly hollow and sickening.... which is roughly where we are today :)
If men had made more demands on women - rather than letting women become bored housewives and then resentful, self-centred feminists - we would not have had the mental health / identity/ relationship crisis that we've witnessed over the last 50+ years.
As awful as we treat men, those constant demands gives them a sense duty, social responsibility and an external purpose (he for she) which stops men disappearing up their own backsides.
But men's innate tendency to put women on a pedestal even if they contribute absolutely nothing to society is why so many modern women are deranged ..... as they take photos of their bum holes, sell their bathwater, abandon their children all day in order to do (what amounts to) housework in some pointless office job - before coming home to put pretend food in the microwave and serve it up as 'food' to their own family.
By demanding nothing of women - other than to just 'be' women - modern men have stripped women of their identity. Female biological hard wiring on its own (vanity, neuroticism, anxiety, narcissism) is not a good basis for an identity. To prevent derangement, you need to be serving a cause which is greater than, and external to, yourself (and your perfectly bleached and polished bum hole). LOL
I have a file titled "Gems". I just put this article there. This piece is just another illustration that in these crazy times everyone is "educated" to ignore the obvious, the simple; truths that every society has known until 5 minutes ago.
I'm just divorced for a second time at seventy, and I had become firmly ensconced in the Red Pill philosophy. There really are two sides to everything, aren't there? Thank you for pulling me back from the abyss.
Good article, gave me quite a bit to think about especially regarding where we went wrong. As a writer of fiction, I think some of the blame lies with fiction being warped and used to put stupid ideas into women's heads.
For example; Eowyn is a fine female archetypal character, yet somehow her choice to become a mother and wife is frowned upon in modern society, when that's the highest calling.
Yet what is more is that she is celebrated while characters such as Luthien remain mostly unknown, when Luthien is arguably the most important character of the Legendarium, and is the most feminine of them all yet somehow more beautiful and archetypal than any other.
You have Zenobia in Howard's fiction who manages to with a few words and a single confession of love tame Conan, and calm his fury so that he devotes the rest of his life to her. This is somehow scorned by many, when the choice Conan made is natural for him to do as a man, and is a testament to the purity and goodness of Zenobia. This purity and kindness on her part, should be encouraged in girls rather than telling them they can be Conan when they clearly cannot become him.
Sure, female warrior characters can exist, but the archetype should not be used willy nilly, but with practiced aim, and there must be other female leads. Or so I tend to think, maybe I'm just stuck in my ways and in my own particular style of writing them as a fantasy-writer.
I admit I started skimming half-way through your essay because you do not discuss the most significant factor contributing to the modern pathological relation between the sexes: secularization of human experience!
Instead of Masculine and Feminine, we now refer to men and women as "Male and Female", and instead of focusing on Character (and by extension, moral VIRTUE), we use scientific models to explain behavior as the result of 'brain chemicals' and hormones. Personally, the reductive "hormonalization" of female/woman nature has contaminated all discussion of ethics. Thanks to several dangerously-convincing explanations, women can basically blame hormones for everything. If she is a bitch, must be PMS. If she's fat, must be her thyroid or 'genetics' or some 'hormonal fluctuation'. Angry? Sad? Happy? Crazy?--she MUST be BPD or suffer from PTSD because "you know, her boyfriend cheated on her, she must be sooooo traumatized now."
Women are encouraged to evade all accountability through "official science". See how dangerous it is when pathological behavior has been legitimized by a materialistic paradigm?
In ancient metaphysics, there was an archetypal and mythic model for moral behavior. It wasn't enough for men to be piles of muscle, they also had to be virtuous and noble in their speech, gestures, and demeanor. Women likewise had some divine model upon which to build an entire "personality" that was both noble and well-rounded.
At least Jungian psychology, with its Archetypes and Animus/Anima dynamic, contained traced of an original Tradition.
This stands as my best attempt to explain why almost all women born between the years 1992 - 2000 are neurotic, crazy, and worse: blame everything and everyone but themselves for their inexcusable behavior!!!
It's nice to get a missive from the other half of the growing-up-zoomer hellscape; the outlook is so grim on the boys' side as to become all-consuming nightmare, which in turn makes it difficult for us to keep in mind the equally hellish plight that the fairer sex is facing. Hearing from the other side helps us keep in mind that we're not the only ones stuck in the pit
I enjoyed your essay’s directness and openness. I have also wondered whether the rush to identify as trans happens frequently in divorced households where a girl suddenly finds a strange man (ie stepfather or boyfriend) living in the same household. In the trans (fTm) whom I know, there is a common pattern of rapid onset gender dysphoria once a stepfather entered the picture. Do you find the same phenomenon? I think it’s also the case that pretty girls are not told they’re pretty because their peers are jealous and the adults think it’s politically incorrect to mention it. Hence, I see a number of very beautiful zoomer girls intentionally making themselves less beautiful through septum piercing or weird haircut. They either are acting out or “reading the room” to notice the hatred for anything beautiful in our society.
As a former high school teacher and grandmother with granddaughters that I worry about, this was an insightful and sad article. So much as changed with the advent of the smartphone and social media. I saw the a significant transformation in girls starting around 2010. I truly feel for young girls as they navigate this current culture. Now 42 years into a marriage that is truly a partnership of equals, I wish this for my granddaughters and other young girls longing for safe relationships where they are seen as beautiful and the freedom to be themselves. It is possible, just so much harder to discover in our society today.
I have often stated that men and women need to be more generous and forgiving of each other because we are what Nature, evolution, made us. Women have the eggs, biologically our most precious and essential possessions, and are themselves the gateway, the means of reproduction. Just as sperm race chemotactically to the egg, with just one winner among millions, men are drawn chemotactically to women (think of how often smell in mentioned in connection with love and lust). Men are designed to seek indications of youth, health, genetic and reproductive fitness: we call this 'beauty'. And women are designed to seek strength, wealth, protection. They check out different bulges than men do, but we all check bulges.
Little or none of these things are 'social constructs' as scientifically illiterate NPCs drone about: they are obviously the result of our evolution. What questions Nature was asking, what problems she was solving by doing so are of interest, and perhaps evolutionary biology and sociobiology might have some answers or at least ideas.
Allah Most High's Commands are Simple but Universal:
Believing Men are commanded explicitly to *Lower their Gaze*.
Believing Women are commanded to *Cover themselves*.
& should they not be followed (in part or full) various Dystopian outcomes result.
'Feminists' (& the various pawns of the Regime behind them) have driven the Western World off the cliff by ruining Male-female relations utterly.
This is because the innate proclivities to Modesty & Piety have been supplanted in favour of 'Liberation' nonsense (of the various sorts you excellently note).
An Excellent Debut essay! Far better than my own DOOM-ramblings from around a Year ago 😅
Keep it Up! Subscribed, & looking forward to more!
Nicely written. I often wonder what this world will look like for my daughter when she comes of age in a decade or so. I think your insights are spot on regarding what the culture is telling young women. I’ve got 20 years on the zoomers but they were pushing this shit back in the 90s. It’s gone parabolic in the last 10.
Keep writing. The more people speak out against this rotten culture the more the truth will surface.
“ My teenage self could only find truth smuggled away in the dark recesses of obscure online communities; usually couched in layers of ironic (and sincere) bigotry. And while I did not enjoy the bigotry (at the time), I found value in engaging with the transgressive material I came across because I felt that it expressed truths otherwise unavailable to me.”
Chateau Heartiste, by any chance?
Excellent essay. I have daughters who are young adults. I tried to be helpful, and I hope that it was of some use, but they are definitely influenced by the culture around them.
The model of a family consisting of a man and a woman committed to each other, having children together, and being responsible for those children and each other, provides a framework for all of these urges and needs and biological pressures. It evolved over thousands of years. Throwing it out in two generations and hoping something better would spontaneously emerge was unwise, to say the least.
I sometimes speculate that we will have a century running from about 1960, the appearance of the oral contraceptive pill, just some major cultural change in 2060, and put all this madness behind us. Future historians will describe this century as a very puzzling and destructive time.
I will be long gone by then! But the world goes on.
I very much appreciated this piece. I am eager to hear more from you. At 50 my focus is mostly on what young men need now. But I can not truly understand them without knowing what women and girls are going through in this pathological Era. So thank you. And, subscribed.
Very good article. As a man, I obviously haven't experienced the bulk of this personally, but it rings true with what I've seen. I've been saying for a while, for example, that most FTM's seem to have a desperate desire to be desexualized, while most MTF's seem to have a desperate desire to be sexualized (and more deeply, to be valued and desired). Obviously both are signs that something in how society treats both men and women since "sexual liberation" has gone horribly wrong.
One thing that could bear mentioning is that while Belle Delphine and those like her get flaunted in the media, most who go that path DON'T get rich. The most common OF payment per month is $0. The second most common is a few hundred. Survivorship bias creates delusions.
Another thing that this article doesn't address is aging. This may be because you're fairly young yourself, in which case congrats for figuring so much out so quickly, but the heavy attention women get from men takes place within a limited window. That window can be a different size depending on the woman and how well she takes care of herself, but very few manage to keep it open through their 40's. That's when women get to experience something more similar to men's existence, where they're judged by what they do or have done rather than what they are. So most of the women who have been riding this OF/e-girl/whatever-you-want-to-call-it wave haven't really experienced the brunt of the consequences of their life choices yet. When they do, that's when things are REALLY going to get interesting, as there's definitely going to be a major social shift, one way or another.
"Why are young women today so deranged?"
Because when men invented the machines which liberated themselves from the plough, the spade and the horse and cart, women made sure men redirected their efforts towards making life safer and more comfortable for women (he for she).
But when men invented some more machines which liberated women from spinning, knitting, washing clothes and beating carpets, those men did NOT demand women redirect THEIR efforts towards making life fairer and more pleasant for men (she for he).... or for children (she for them).
Instead men said "You're free to do whatever you want now - we've got everything covered".
As a consequence, in the post industrial age - and freshly liberated from crucial tasks around the home -women lost their sense of purpose, social responsibility and identity as women, and embarked on the hedonistic pursuits of 'liberation' and 'personal empowerment' (vanity, self service and narcissism) - abandoning the needs of their own children, and even usurping the roles of their husbands and sons along the way.... until society collapsed under the weight of all this 'female empowerment', which all began to feel increasingly hollow and sickening.... which is roughly where we are today :)
If men had made more demands on women - rather than letting women become bored housewives and then resentful, self-centred feminists - we would not have had the mental health / identity/ relationship crisis that we've witnessed over the last 50+ years.
As awful as we treat men, those constant demands gives them a sense duty, social responsibility and an external purpose (he for she) which stops men disappearing up their own backsides.
But men's innate tendency to put women on a pedestal even if they contribute absolutely nothing to society is why so many modern women are deranged ..... as they take photos of their bum holes, sell their bathwater, abandon their children all day in order to do (what amounts to) housework in some pointless office job - before coming home to put pretend food in the microwave and serve it up as 'food' to their own family.
By demanding nothing of women - other than to just 'be' women - modern men have stripped women of their identity. Female biological hard wiring on its own (vanity, neuroticism, anxiety, narcissism) is not a good basis for an identity. To prevent derangement, you need to be serving a cause which is greater than, and external to, yourself (and your perfectly bleached and polished bum hole). LOL
I have a file titled "Gems". I just put this article there. This piece is just another illustration that in these crazy times everyone is "educated" to ignore the obvious, the simple; truths that every society has known until 5 minutes ago.
I'm just divorced for a second time at seventy, and I had become firmly ensconced in the Red Pill philosophy. There really are two sides to everything, aren't there? Thank you for pulling me back from the abyss.
At the end of the day, I believe we'll come to a new wisdom and it will look shockingly similar to the old wisdom.
Good article, gave me quite a bit to think about especially regarding where we went wrong. As a writer of fiction, I think some of the blame lies with fiction being warped and used to put stupid ideas into women's heads.
For example; Eowyn is a fine female archetypal character, yet somehow her choice to become a mother and wife is frowned upon in modern society, when that's the highest calling.
Yet what is more is that she is celebrated while characters such as Luthien remain mostly unknown, when Luthien is arguably the most important character of the Legendarium, and is the most feminine of them all yet somehow more beautiful and archetypal than any other.
You have Zenobia in Howard's fiction who manages to with a few words and a single confession of love tame Conan, and calm his fury so that he devotes the rest of his life to her. This is somehow scorned by many, when the choice Conan made is natural for him to do as a man, and is a testament to the purity and goodness of Zenobia. This purity and kindness on her part, should be encouraged in girls rather than telling them they can be Conan when they clearly cannot become him.
Sure, female warrior characters can exist, but the archetype should not be used willy nilly, but with practiced aim, and there must be other female leads. Or so I tend to think, maybe I'm just stuck in my ways and in my own particular style of writing them as a fantasy-writer.
I admit I started skimming half-way through your essay because you do not discuss the most significant factor contributing to the modern pathological relation between the sexes: secularization of human experience!
Instead of Masculine and Feminine, we now refer to men and women as "Male and Female", and instead of focusing on Character (and by extension, moral VIRTUE), we use scientific models to explain behavior as the result of 'brain chemicals' and hormones. Personally, the reductive "hormonalization" of female/woman nature has contaminated all discussion of ethics. Thanks to several dangerously-convincing explanations, women can basically blame hormones for everything. If she is a bitch, must be PMS. If she's fat, must be her thyroid or 'genetics' or some 'hormonal fluctuation'. Angry? Sad? Happy? Crazy?--she MUST be BPD or suffer from PTSD because "you know, her boyfriend cheated on her, she must be sooooo traumatized now."
Women are encouraged to evade all accountability through "official science". See how dangerous it is when pathological behavior has been legitimized by a materialistic paradigm?
In ancient metaphysics, there was an archetypal and mythic model for moral behavior. It wasn't enough for men to be piles of muscle, they also had to be virtuous and noble in their speech, gestures, and demeanor. Women likewise had some divine model upon which to build an entire "personality" that was both noble and well-rounded.
At least Jungian psychology, with its Archetypes and Animus/Anima dynamic, contained traced of an original Tradition.
This stands as my best attempt to explain why almost all women born between the years 1992 - 2000 are neurotic, crazy, and worse: blame everything and everyone but themselves for their inexcusable behavior!!!
Great opening essay, I like.
It's nice to get a missive from the other half of the growing-up-zoomer hellscape; the outlook is so grim on the boys' side as to become all-consuming nightmare, which in turn makes it difficult for us to keep in mind the equally hellish plight that the fairer sex is facing. Hearing from the other side helps us keep in mind that we're not the only ones stuck in the pit
I enjoyed your essay’s directness and openness. I have also wondered whether the rush to identify as trans happens frequently in divorced households where a girl suddenly finds a strange man (ie stepfather or boyfriend) living in the same household. In the trans (fTm) whom I know, there is a common pattern of rapid onset gender dysphoria once a stepfather entered the picture. Do you find the same phenomenon? I think it’s also the case that pretty girls are not told they’re pretty because their peers are jealous and the adults think it’s politically incorrect to mention it. Hence, I see a number of very beautiful zoomer girls intentionally making themselves less beautiful through septum piercing or weird haircut. They either are acting out or “reading the room” to notice the hatred for anything beautiful in our society.
Thank you so much for writing this! And, thank you more for publishing it. You are speaking the uneasy, complicated, truth!
As a former high school teacher and grandmother with granddaughters that I worry about, this was an insightful and sad article. So much as changed with the advent of the smartphone and social media. I saw the a significant transformation in girls starting around 2010. I truly feel for young girls as they navigate this current culture. Now 42 years into a marriage that is truly a partnership of equals, I wish this for my granddaughters and other young girls longing for safe relationships where they are seen as beautiful and the freedom to be themselves. It is possible, just so much harder to discover in our society today.
I have often stated that men and women need to be more generous and forgiving of each other because we are what Nature, evolution, made us. Women have the eggs, biologically our most precious and essential possessions, and are themselves the gateway, the means of reproduction. Just as sperm race chemotactically to the egg, with just one winner among millions, men are drawn chemotactically to women (think of how often smell in mentioned in connection with love and lust). Men are designed to seek indications of youth, health, genetic and reproductive fitness: we call this 'beauty'. And women are designed to seek strength, wealth, protection. They check out different bulges than men do, but we all check bulges.
Little or none of these things are 'social constructs' as scientifically illiterate NPCs drone about: they are obviously the result of our evolution. What questions Nature was asking, what problems she was solving by doing so are of interest, and perhaps evolutionary biology and sociobiology might have some answers or at least ideas.
Allah Most High's Commands are Simple but Universal:
Believing Men are commanded explicitly to *Lower their Gaze*.
Believing Women are commanded to *Cover themselves*.
& should they not be followed (in part or full) various Dystopian outcomes result.
'Feminists' (& the various pawns of the Regime behind them) have driven the Western World off the cliff by ruining Male-female relations utterly.
This is because the innate proclivities to Modesty & Piety have been supplanted in favour of 'Liberation' nonsense (of the various sorts you excellently note).
An Excellent Debut essay! Far better than my own DOOM-ramblings from around a Year ago 😅
Keep it Up! Subscribed, & looking forward to more!
Nicely written. I often wonder what this world will look like for my daughter when she comes of age in a decade or so. I think your insights are spot on regarding what the culture is telling young women. I’ve got 20 years on the zoomers but they were pushing this shit back in the 90s. It’s gone parabolic in the last 10.
Keep writing. The more people speak out against this rotten culture the more the truth will surface.